I hated her for her selfishness and idiocy. No Dalish (except maybe Zathrian) would risk their clan like that, and both Dalish PCs I played (Caerwyn included) plus Tesni died a little inside. My attachment to the Dalish made the whole thing excruciating for me. I think if I metagame I might be able to avoid killing them. That would make me feel a lot better. Sigh.